(sigh) i don't think i'll go there again. it worked for us. might not for you.
we never, ever would have turned the sheets down for another man had it not been the man it was ... my bro-in-law. i guess ours is just a uniquely close relationship. my husband and his brother barely even shake hands. they love each other immensly in that "wave across the room" kind of way. thank God. too weird to imagine. but they very much enjoyed what we did ... it launched me into orbit on multiple nights ... 'nuff said.