I realize this is an old thread, but we just had to "weigh in".
For us swinging is something for us to share together. Sometimes this includes other men, sometimes other women, and sometimes other couples. Sometimes it even includes "Groups".
We never concern ourselves with facts like how many of another sex is involved at any given time....as long as we're both comfortable with the others who are with us.
And we never keep a "scorecard" of how many others that she has had, or how many others that he has had, so that we can play "catch up".
Our marriage is very strong, but we would never consider swinging alone with another "single" person. No matter how strong the marriage, that just opens up too many possibilities. Also one of our things about swinging is voyeurism, and exhibitionism, so you do sort of need more than two to accomplish that feat.
Lastly, one thing I don't think was fair in this situation was the fact that she was not only swinging single with ONLY another man, but she was actually swinging with a group of people without her husband.
To us, that would just be entirely going way over the edge. |