Talking to Mrs Spoomonkey tonight, we decided that chances are, we will always be willing to "take one for the team". We just may never admit it. If she really likes a guy and I am not completely turned off by the female, then - like TNT's perfect post - letting her enjoy herself and being able to watch and experience that is well worth the "sacrifice".
So - we decided just to never tell each other that we were "taking one for the team". Better to just go with the moment.
But - honestly - if you guys think I'd ever turn down sex, I've completely made the wrong impression
I think it will more be a case of Mrs Spoo "leaning into a pitch".
Spoomonkey