Thanks a million to all of you for posting such thoughtful responses to our query. That's what makes this Board so great!
As a matter of fact, the question we posed is real-life and not hypothetical. My sister-in-law , Jan (not her real name) has been widowed for 15 long years. Jan is a wonderful, yet traditional female who was very dedicated to her departed husband and the two children that are now adults. Due to and out of her dedication and upbringing she did not date men after her hubby's death. Any interaction with men has been strictly business or social, not sexual. She has not been with another man for intimacy, much less partake sexual intercourse. In all these years she has not taken a man's penis in her vagina. This is the truth, strange as it my sound. She now thinks she to explore her sexuality fully. However, she does not want to commit to a marital or emotional bond. We suppose swinging is about women and men exploring their sexuality fully, in an uninhibited manner and without guilt. We suggested that she explore the lifestyle with a male partner or perhaps as a single female. The latter may be problematical for her due to her shy nature.
Hubby and Jan get along fine. He thinks Jan is hot. The admiration is mutual. Since Jan has not had sex in years, I, the wife, feels it would be a wonderful idea for her to have caressive intimacy and intercourse with my hubby in a seperate room. Since Jan is shy she may not want anyone to watch the two nude while he plays with her to get her vaginal juices flowing. Many years' of abstinence can do weird things such as vaginal dryness. then he may slide his penis in her vagina and screw her until she cums. A few sessions of sexual intercourse with him hopefully will give her back her self confidence for future sexual encounters with other men. Him and her screwing each other is a short term fix. Long term we want her get into swinging with couples of her choice and enjoy sexual intercourse with multiple partners of opposite sex. She is straight by the way. This idea is not too far fetched I hope!
This brings up another question regarding how many single women (widowed or divorced) participate in the lifestyle with or without a male companion. We are friends with one couple (she is divorced and he is a widower) that are into full swap, anything goes, intercourse with couples (m/f).
Thanks in advance for your thoughts and the Swingersboard for allowing us express our thoughts in such an explicit manner.
(Mrs) R&M
