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Originally posted by Spoomonkey
But the truth is - you sometimes have to make big decisions in a very quick time. And if you don't keep and use your right to say "no" you will be in some miserable situations within this lifestyle. You did the right thing... No - maybe it wasn't at the perfect time - but being able to say "no" now, in hopes of maybe being able to say "yes" later, can really save you and your husband from some misery down the road. Saying "no" is your right - always remember that 
As for clubs - we were reluctant at first, but enjoy them now. Mrs Spoomonkey told me (she is busy doing useful stuff) that for her a club is no different than any bar - except for the occassional nudity... I'm not sure I agree, but it is sooo much easier to play at clubs than on-line (IMHO). Then again, we played with couples before trying the club - and maybe that eased us into it...
It sounds like you just need more time to talk things out and get comfortable with the idea...
Spoomonkey |
My husband said that he could tell that I was getting more and more upset the closer we got to the club. He said that he could hear me breathing faster and faster and knew that I was in turmoil. I told him that I felt like my heart was going to beat its way out of my chest. He was alright with it...and said that he is allowing me to "pave the way" .
We've made plans to go check out a club on our own....on a night when it won't be so busy. In the mean time we will keep talkin!