This is an interesting subject to read about. I believe more single women would enjoy participating in the lifestyle if they were able to find true mentors. Someone to attach themselves to, in a manner of speaking, for safety and security reasons. It is difficult trying to even date as a single woman. The idea of participating as a swinger can become overwhelming to the point of some giving up the idea shortly after it is thought of. Another thought I had along this same line has to do with single men. Most people have rather negative feelings about single men, but they, too, could probably benefit greatly by having a couple take them in hand to assist in guiding them. Like everyone else coming in, single men have nothing to base their actions and reactions on other than past experiences in the dating arena, but those actions are not always appropriate in swinging situations.
I believe the best mentor would be someone that I didn't have any type of sexual relationship with, but someone that could answer questions, be a sounding board, maybe go with me to visit some of the clubs, and just help me pave my way in general until I began to grow comfortable and felt like shedding my water-wings.
And yes, I totally agree that this board could serve some of the same purposes as a mentor but a real-life person would be nice also.
RedRobin |