As you read through this message board, you may notice that there is no ONE definition of swinging, and in general, people find that it's a custom made endeavour.
The couples we know of who practice mentoring in the fashion of taking other couples under their wing and inviting them to all kinds of clubs and events, tend to tutor them to their style of swinging, all the while saying 'it's totally up to you', but making sure the new couple are being schooled in their version of swinging.
I've heard these mentors describe new couples as: fresh meat, first to bed them wins a toaster, they have that new car smell.....
The mentoring has bordered on abusive, and it saddens me to think of all the new couples who felt their only option was to leave completely when things got too intense.
I agree with MrsO...your best mentor would be this site.
We wish you all the best and hope your swinger life is long and fruitful
