There is the common knowledge that it isn't the easiest thing in the world to find 2, let alone 4, socially and/or sexually compatible people.
I don't understand your not just putting an ad up and seeing who responds. You will have to send off many 'thanks but no thanks' emails anyway....
I understand the thinking that if you are very specific you will get better responses. The danger therein I believe lies in an ad coming across as shallow or pompous, as in we only want hard bodies. Raises the expectation level on the part of responders as well, as in you darn well better be Jessica and Nick at least.
Now, if you are prepared to get only a few responses to your ad, more power to you.
If, however, you are looking to get connected in this lifestyle and expand your exponential circle, then it may serve you better to leave most doors open, and decline politely and respectfully when you have no interest in a certain couple. Which may not always have anything to do with HWP. Could be their deficiencies in spelling or grammar, too. Or, they smoke. Or........
Personally.. I'm no fan of dirty talk or the C word. Is weight really as much a deal breaker for you as crass talk is for me? Because if you are hoping to get connected in the community, you kinda have to be kind and respectful to most people when they are the same to you, to be able to move on and meet more people.
Just my 8 cents.
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