My boyfriend told me that he and his ex-wife have not been with this couple sexually since the end of 2001. He did tell me that right before he and his wife broke up in 2003, they did spend the night at this couple's home because they were too drunk to drive. I told him it sounded pretty fishy to me -- no sex? He promised me it was the truth and that he and his wife left there home at 6:30 a.m. that next morning and the couples slept in separate rooms. Being how aggressive this couple is, I find it hard to believe, but he swears it is the truth.
I asked him why the swinging stopped in the end of 2001 with this couple and he told me it just died off, although this couple continually tried to hit on him and his wife. According to my boyfriend, it was just something he and his wife didnt want to do with this couple anymore. They started to have kids and with the timing and problems in their marriage, it was just something that was not something they made a priority.
Although the sex stopped with this couple in 2001, he did admit that he and his wife did talk about have threesomes and group sex with people didnt know. For example, if they went away on vacation and it just happened -- then that would be cool. He told me it never did happen though.
Just two days ago, my bf told me his ex-wife called him and told him that this couple had been bad mouthing her and saying she was not a good parent (this couple does not speak to his ex anymore). His ex asked my bf if he still talks to them and he said, "Not really, you know how we slowly got away from them -- they are a little too toxic for me." Funny thing is -- he had nothing but great things to say about them when we first started dating. He said they had been great friends of his and that he and this woman were very close. Now he sings a different tune.
He told me it was ME that helped him see that these people are too pushy and all about themselves. He even told me about how they put other people down all the time. He agree's with me that they are after us -- not because of friendship -- that is secondary. They want us for sex.
He promises me that although he has spoken to them on occassions since his divorce, he has had limited contact with them (meaning, no sex -- rather, just saw them at parties or spoke on the phone.) He said he has not talked to them in over a month and when he does see them or talk to them, he will keep it short and just let that friendship slowly die off. He said if they ever try to hit on him or us, he will let them know he and I are NOT intersted and that we not about that lifestyle. (I only wish he would have done it when they hit on us at the party. Instead, he did nothing, but rather, just got away from them. I told him that he was basically telling them it was OK to do that, and that he should have spoke up then. All he can say is that he is sorry and he should have handled it differently.)
You know....he is such a nice guy that I cannot see him being very forthright with these people. He says he will tell them -- we shall see. I just don't want to be around them EVER -- but know that he has a large group of friends (only a few are swingers) and if we avoid this couple, we would have to stay away from any party his other friends had.
Ugh. Thanks so much for listening to me and giving me advice. I really appreciate it.
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