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This tedious path I've chosen here...Hello ..... my name is Robert and I am a 19 year old married man who has decided along with his wife to have other partners. She has had two partners previously but I have had none...mostly because I am always working and I am pretty selective. The concept of sex with other partners is great, but I just don't want that to be all it is for. I actually want to get to know someone at least a little bit and connect with them on some level. That would make the experience so much better to me. Maybe that just doesn't go along with the lifestyle; any suggestions? Or anyone interested would be even better ....anyway thank you all for any input you might have.
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It read to me like Botcpl offered their opinion, which was part of your request.
It is also my opinion that 19 is very young to be venturing into what reads to me like the beginnings and some first steps toward an open marriage.
Open marriage is not the same as a swinging relationship. Sure, some swingers like some level of friendship as part of their extracurricular sexual activities, mostly with other couples on a friendship level, as couples. Some don't. It all depends upon the couple and what they find they are comfortable with and what can further, not hinder, their primary relationship with each other.
It has been my observation that generally, when one half of a couple meet one other person on their own for sex, encouraging or eliciting an emotional involvement that is separate from the primary relationship, is asking for trouble down the line.
Now perhaps this has not posed a problem for you two and you see no reason right now that it would ever pose a problem. However, you two have come onto this board asking for input to your personal relationship relating to your exploring sexual activities with other persons.
And that is what you asked for and have been given.....input and sharing from others as to what they think or feel or discern from what you post here.