[EternallySingle]

Well, now that I heard Luxaria's side of the story, I don't think either of you are dissatisfied with the relationship (I wrote my post at the same time Luxaria wrote hers), but I still think you two should hold off another year or so before swinging with seperate partners, for the same reasons I stated before. If you've been together as long as you implied, swinging together may work for you. But even with experienced swingers, swinging seperately can raise serious problems if the primary relationship hasn't been tempered through various trials and obstacles unique to the marriage. Even if its a partner(s) that won't accept the fact that neither of you will leave the other, it can cause stress on your relationship and no matter how mature you are, there are somethings you only know how to handle after experiencing them three or four times.