(wife again)
Marriage wasnt something that neither of us forced the other into... meaning that the decision was mutual.
The reason why we decided to allow other people into our sex lives was because we've seen too many relationships ripped apart my jealousy, cheating and lies...
my opinion was that there will be no cheating if sleeping with others is allowed... if I am attracted to someone, I tell monolith and we talk about it before hand... and we go into my having an experience with another man with the full knowledge that if my husband has a problem then he will talk to me about it and i will stop. We decided that instead of jumping into this with both feet we would test the waters some, thats why Ive had partners now its his turn... mono and I have been together for over 3 years now. (no not married that long but together)
im not doing this to explore or broaden my horizions.. I do it because its fun and its who I am.
and thank you for your post eternallysingle, even though you had a a different opinion than we you expressed it in a very noncombative way.
~luxuria