[EternallySingle]

If you were both single and wanted to try swinging as a committed couple, it would be one thing. However, you are a YOUNG married couple trying to swing...and swing seperately at that. My questions are:

1) Was it your idea to get married or hers?
2) Was it her idea or yours?

I ask these questions because it seems like either you are trying to gain more sexual experience by being with someone other than her, or she is looking to continue exploring her sexuality without you and is giving you permission to do the same. Either way, from someone who also started swinging at 19 and had it change his opinion of women in a bad way for several years, I would say hold off until you had a little more life experience.

If she is the only woman you've been with, sex is still new to you and it will be easy to get distracted by other people and worse, start comparing their home life to yours.

From someone who is more or less EternallySingle because of bad relationship choices early in life similar to the one you are considering, work on your marriage FIRST. Even if it is good now, every relationship needs work in the beginning, since that is when its easiest for the most dissatisfied person to leave. And something tells me thats not you.