Liza:
What you ask are very difficult questions; but I would be lying if I told you I could turn a blinds eye to the other woman's right to exclude me from any decision she makes. No man who had a sense of ethics or responsibility could!
Personally, my answer to you would be yes, I would want to be included in the decision.
Personally, an abortion is not an option. That said, I would not deny my wife or another woman's the right to choose. If the "fetus" is not my child, I would never tread on a woman's right to choose; however, if it were my child. I have the right to make that decision too!
You cannot "Monday morning quarterback" this kind of decision! Nor can you totally exclude the other person in such a decision!
We can debate the moral implications until hell freezes over; we all can! To deny the other person; their right is ethically wrong.
None of us go out with the intent to do something stupid or to be intentionally invictive, but accidents do and will happen. And rules sometimes do and will get bent.
I have enough faith in "me" that I wouldn't ever have to be put in a position to make such a decision. I think many of us do, but there are those out there that don't give a rat's ass who they stick their dick into and women that don't care either.
We ALL have a responsibility in this lifestyle. Not just women, but men too! We don't live in a perfect world, nor is everybody in the lifestyle perfect.
Liza, in principle, I would agree with you. My mind tells me that you're absolutely right; my soul and my heart tell me, I would want to be involved in the decision. There is no right and no wrong. It is a human decision.
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