The good news is that you are in a good area for clubs and swinging. There are usually 2 or more parties to choose from on any given weekend down that way (and that's just the off-premise social type things).
We just went to the Apple last weekend and had a great time. I was a little worried myself about going mainly for my husbands sake. I love to dance, he doesn't. But the place was great. We went with two other couples that we are good friends with, one of which doesn't drink at all (so he was our DD and drank water all night). My hubby did get up and dance a few times. But there was no pressure to. There were a ton of people and there's no way they would have all fit on the dance floor (which was pretty crowded most of the night). The people overall were quite friendly and as the night wore on outfits got skimpier and skimpier.
The Apple is a little different than most dances in the Detroit area in that they don't advertise at all. Any new couple that comes in has to be sponsored by a current member couple. With that in mind it seemed like it was up to our sponsor couple to try to introduce us to new people. I think that case tho, there were just way too many people there for anyone to have any idea of who is new or not (talking about 200 couples).
Check the different clubs out down there. There are some smaller ones if you don't like the big crowds. There are several listed in our club listings here and 2 or 3 more that don't list (for the same reason as the Apple).
If all else fails, hopefully we'll at least see you at the Swingers Board party this summer
