Maybe it's me, but the "deal with it" philosophy doesn't cut it for me on this. There are ramifications small & large that cannot be taken lightly.
Unless there are some extraordinary circumstances like being unable to have a child and this is the way for a couple to have a child with the consent of the other couple is just plain short of stupidity.
An abortion? There's a solution! A guy's solution. I'm not going to debate the moral implications of the subject here. I have to believe an abortion isn't an option for many couples here on the boards.
I read this thread and I'm dumbfounded by the comments. What couple wouldn't weigh the possibility. My wife cannot have a child, but I am; my sperm are still viable. I'm not prepared to have a vascetomy...my choice, but with my choice, I have the responsibility to do everything possible to ensure an accident doesn't occur. If I don't, this is not the hobby I need to flirt with.
That's common sense! Now, unless you want to get pregnant, the choice is obvious.
What person would NOT air on the side of caution? As for Jem's original scenario; I have to also believe despite every effort to take precautions, sometimes accidents happen. They do!
But nobody here is going to sell me on the idea you have your plan in place as to what you're going to do if it does!
Whether it's the "mother" or the "father", both must be in on the decision. To deny one or the other, goes against the very ideas of which why all of us do what we do.
To deny is no different than cheating or adultery.
You deny choice!
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