I applaud Tarnished Halo for sharing her insights. To the person(s) who feel she should not necessarily add her two cents worth, please try and understand that swinging for many is not an easy decision to make. My husband and I are still in the talking stage and we may never get beyond it and that's okay. Tarnished Halo is a lady who has been in a similar situation to Frenchie's lady and has something to add..........something for us all to think about. Obviously, Tarnished Halo has had some differing feelings about the lifestyle, as many of us may and/or do. What's wrong with voicing them so long as it's not considered "bashing" which is not needed on any message boards anywhere. I do not see her saying anything against anyone at all pr against the swinging. She's being honest and forthright with her feelings and I, for one, appreciate reading her comments. Again, there's alot to think about in a relationship. Major changes, and for many of us swinging is a major change, deserve to be thought about, discussed and otherwise researched before humping, I mean jumping, right in
Personally, I think all of the information on this thread has been very thought provoking. Remember that just because you feel something one way doesn't mean that's the way everyone else feels it. You can't really put yourself into someone else's shoes, but you can sure try to "hear" what they're saying and try to respect it............as long as they aren't trying to cause harm.
Hugs to you all
