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Originally posted by TNT
A little different view here so the asbestos suits are on to protect from the flames, lol...
First off we don’t see this as a one way street as most of the posters have, i.e....all the husbands fault.
TNT |
Say, TNT...excellent points and thanks for bringing them up.
You know, I had thought many of the same things as I read this thread but was hesitant to comment as a single person...just seemed to me as if the wife was sending serious mixed messages. Now of course, we've only heard his side of the story and a couple of things come to mind...1) he's added more 'negative' types of details as things have gone along, and 2) we've all been in on that situation where, after hearing both sides, our thoughts and opinions change dramatically. But, simply based on what he has said it seems that she is guilty of leading this guy on to some extent.
Counseling has been recommended by several others and if these facts, as presented, are accurate, I can't think of any activity that would benefit this couple more than that, and especially just now. As for the rape issue...if indeed that is the case, then the Mrs. really needs to come to terms with that issue for the sake of her marriage, but more importantly, for the sake of herself. Life must be miserable for any woman who has gone through that experience but hasn't resolved her feelings and emotions about it.
Regardless of who is at fault or the various sides of the story, it seems to me that this couple needs to avoid swinging like the plague - at least until all of these issues are resolved. And from that standpoint, frenchie needs to put the idea of swinging to bed for the time being and focus on what seems to be serious problems in his relationship with his wife - whether these are his problems, her problems, or their problems. Isn't that what marriage is all about? Making things better for your spouse?
Just my thoughts - and yep! I'm wearing my asbestos suit, too. This might prove to be lethal!
- EBF
