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Originally posted by frenchie
But when I say, ok fine, we'll just forget about it... and I won't check "those" accounts so often, but then a few days or weeks will pass and then she brings it up and gives me hope.
Like the other day, she said that maybe for my b'day we can go back to the club, (she has stated that she did enjoy going) but that IF we go, the same rules apply, she wants us to keep any and all sexual activity to just us. That if anyone wants to watch us, that's fine, but that's it.
I want to go back to the club,but is she for real, or only offering this to please me, or just stringing me along. |
For me, that last bit borders on being contemptible. From what you've told us about her, the last thing your wife would do is string you along. More likely, with you telling her until you're "blue in the face" how important this is to you, she's *still* trying to do her best to please and satisfy you, even when it's something that makes a wreck of her. You should treasure her, rather than think that she's stringing you along.
Take the pressure off her *completely*. Tell her what Alura suggested you say, forget about swinging, and put your relationship back together. And perhaps, in a few years, **she'll** say to you out of the blue and out of genuine desire, "Maybe we could . . . "