If your wife is giving you mixed signals here then it will be difficult for you to decipher what she wants. Maybe she's trying so hard to please you that she doesn't have a clue as to how she really feels about any of it. After what happened to her earlier in life (the rape and molestation), maybe she's very confused herself about what she wants. Can you understand that? I sure can. You know your wife better than anyone. She could be serious about wanting to go to the club and just being into softswing, or she might be testing you to see where your allegiance is at this point. Maybe she wants to know if she's more important to you than going to the club. Can you blame her?
Not trying to be tough on you. Just trying to bring out some points to ponder.
Good luck to both of you. I sure hope things work out well for you both
