thanks for the reply, from my point of view she appears to hate the idea and then after some nudging she kind of gives me the impression that she's warming up to the idea. But then when we have talked about why swinging doesn't apeal to her I get blasted with the comments that she was brought up to be a "good girl" and how she has always taken great pride in herself that she was never one of those girls that laid down for just anyone and how she equates having sex as that same as making love and that how she firmly believes that the one without the other makes it meaningless to her.
I know she loves me and wants nothing more then to please me and make me happy and I feel she's only partispated in what we have done thus far for just that reason. And to be truthful it did excite me beyond words to have another man pleaseing her with me. She was so hot and excited, so turned on, But in the days that passed after, she was emotionally ruined and totally grief stricken believing that she broke our vows, I just need to find a way for her to get over it and understand that I was there too, and if I don't view our actions as breaking a vow to me then she shouldn't.
I want the whole package, and I feel if I can get her to see things my way (that I'm ok with another man pleaeing her / that we're still being faithful to each other) then maybe shell be more ok with giving it another shot.
thanks,
F.
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Originally posted by Miss_Piggy
You have to seriuosly consider what is in your wife's best interest here.
It would seem to me that your wife's past experience will make it very difficult for her to reconcile her attitudes about sex with swinging. I say don't push her at all. Commit to leaving the idea of swinging as a fantasy. If one day she decides that it is something she feels like she can persue with you then you might think of moving forward again.
Pushing her into this will only cause you big problems.
Best of luck to you
~Piggy |