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Jem · 10-19-2001, 04:21 PM

A post on one of the other boards got me curious...

I know many couples on here do not do full swap, but for those that do...

Do you have any agreements on pregnancy? I realize that many/most couples that full swap are either surgically sterile or use birth control religiously. However, birth control is not 100% effective. For that matter, neither is surgical sterilization. It's very rare, but it IS possible to become pregnant while using the pill, Norplant, Depo, etc. correctly. Even rarer, but still possible is becoming pregant after a tubal or impregnating someone after a vasectomy.

So for those full-swap couples, do you have any agreements on what would happen should the unthinkable happen and the woman get pregnant by another man? Or should the man impregnate another woman?

Our agreement is that if I am pregnant it is my honey's child. No questions. However, things get a little murkier when thinking about the possibility of him impregnating someone else. What if she didn't agree that it was her husband's child? What if she pressed for a paternity test, etc.?

It is something that makes us nervous to think of. YES, we practice safe sex, but what if? When there is still the possibility that a woman who's had a tubal could get pregant...I realize surgical sterilization is about 99.9% effective, but what if you hit that .01% it is not effective for?

Anyway, just something we think about. Was wondering if any other full-swap couples had thoughts on the subject, or plans of what to do if the unthinkable happened to them.

10-19-2001, 04:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
Jem Active Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 35	Pregnancy... A post on one of the other boards got me curious... I know many couples on here do not do full swap, but for those that do... Do you have any agreements on pregnancy? I realize that many/most couples that full swap are either surgically sterile or use birth control religiously. However, birth control is not 100% effective. For that matter, neither is surgical sterilization. It's very rare, but it IS possible to become pregnant while using the pill, Norplant, Depo, etc. correctly. Even rarer, but still possible is becoming pregant after a tubal or impregnating someone after a vasectomy. So for those full-swap couples, do you have any agreements on what would happen should the unthinkable happen and the woman get pregnant by another man? Or should the man impregnate another woman? Our agreement is that if I am pregnant it is my honey's child. No questions. However, things get a little murkier when thinking about the possibility of him impregnating someone else. What if she didn't agree that it was her husband's child? What if she pressed for a paternity test, etc.? It is something that makes us nervous to think of. YES, we practice safe sex, but what if? When there is still the possibility that a woman who's had a tubal could get pregant...I realize surgical sterilization is about 99.9% effective, but what if you hit that .01% it is not effective for? Anyway, just something we think about. Was wondering if any other full-swap couples had thoughts on the subject, or plans of what to do if the unthinkable happened to them.
Jem Active Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 35