 There may be some this works for ...
I think that it begins to be difficult to view your activity as something you are doing together if/when you begin doing things apart from one another.
And try as you might, it will be difficult to convey "everything" that happens when you are apart. Especially the 'nuance' of a relationship that develops with the third party - which happens to some degree despite your intentions to the contrary.
Perhaps his desire to hear tales of separate activity could be satisfied by some separate room swinging. That would keep the accompanying time shared, prior to the actual act. And lessen the chance for the activity you describe to become divisive rather than a shared experience.
There may be some this has worked for, but I believe it is dangerous grounds to tread if you value the marriage relationship first and foremost. It becomes 'dating' and that is not a good thing, in my opinion. |