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In my opinion, the most important aspect of swinging is to be able to separate the act of "making love" from the acts of sex. Know that no matter how hot things get, love is not being shared. It is important that both of you assure the other constantly that this is not the case.
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Ahhhhhh. . . .the "L" word.
We as swingers seem to fear that word as it relates to our playmates. I wish it had more than one definition. Or perhaps different words to describe different levels of love.
I think it depends on one's comfort level. We have never loved a swing partner as much as we love each other as husband and wife, but we have loved them as people. We prefer it that way if we can find it and develop it into that type of relationship. The best sex for us is having sex with people we truly care about.
Would we want a playmate we love as a spouse? Of course not.
We have experienced the sex-only relationships, the friends-and-sex relationships and the "love"-sex relationships. We prefer the emotions as well as the sex.
Why wouldn't you want your sex partner to love you, too? Love handled properly isn't a threat. It is what makes us different from just animals having sex. (Although that can be good also
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