I was getting ready to reply and read J and T's response and they said everything I was putting together in my head.
Sometimes couples jump in with both feet before either of them are totally ready. You really need to have frank, open discussions BEFORE you attempt any other swing activities. If you are too embarrassed to say exactly what you want, don't want, etc, then you aren't ready to play in this lifestyle.
I have to agree that when you said stop and they did, that alone tells you how much he loves and respects you...and the follow-up phone call from 'her' was an awfully nice touch on her half.
take some time to figure out what REALLY bothered you about it all...and I think you will agree with what J & T said that it was YOUR thoughts and YOUR feelings and NOT the actions or behaviors of your other partners...that's not a criticism, this way of life isn't for everybody, you just need to be sure before you do anything else
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