Thanks for your response. We met the woman through another personal Web site. She understood that I was not comfortable with intercourse - and actually she was glad. It was her first experience as well. She was very understanding of me and made sure that I was comfortable with things. Actually, she couldn't have been sweeter. She was very concerned and even called the next day to make sure my husband and I will be ok. We haven't heard from her since and I hope her next experience will be better.
I have told my husband that kissing is important to me - would like to make out more often. I have mentioned it several times over the past 6 years and that is why I figured he didn't like kissing that much. We do kiss but it is usually a nice sensual no-tongue lip kiss.
I told him that I didn't mind if he kissed her just no long, intimate kiss. I told him it bothered me because he hadn't kissed me like that in years. He didn't say anything to that.
When we first started discussing this lifestyle, he didn't share a lot. It wasn't until an arguement occurred that I finally got him to open up about what he wanted. He basically wanted it all but doesn't feel comfortable having another man in the room so different room swapping was great for him! That threw me for a loop - I thought he wanted to experience this with me - not separate from me. And if he were in a situation, he would just go for it.
I admit that I am bi-curious so not having another man present wasn't that big of a deal - but now I wonder how he would react if there were.
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