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Originally posted by LIZA:
Anything that implies there is some enormous difference in men and womens minds goes totally against my way of thinking |
Well you should!! Read it that is. It doesn't define differances in male/female minds. It defines thought process and it's involvement with relationship issues.
BTW, my ex bought it. Then refused to read it, after I did. Especially since I thought it was a very well written book. I can't speak for the "female" issues. But, the "male" issues were very valid IMO.
With all the above aside I do agree with the communication comments. Telling someone "how" to talk to their spouse, is difficult, if not impossible.
But, I do understand their concern. What happens if the spouse reacts as my ex did? If a person could get a simple YES or NO. It would be differant. But, not everyone is going to respond that way. That's where the difficulty lies.
They're asking because they DO KNOW their spouse. And are wanting a way to ask, that won't result in a possible divorce. Just for asking.
We really can't help them at all with that problem. Passive/aggresive relationships rarely work out anyway. So swinging, even the mention of it, will result in destroying the relationship in the long run.