We're with Liza on this one. We all agree that, in this lifestyle, communication is the most important key to happiness (success). If swinging isn't an idea that grows from both of you (ie. one person fantasy vs. a fantasy developed by both people) one person will be insecure about the it. Imagine if you wife, out of the blue, brought up her fantasy to have sex with another man and then proceeds to arrange to fulfill that fantasy. Even if you were OK with it part of you would wonder why she had this desire and how it reflects upon your relationship. That point brings us back to Liza's orginal argument: If you are not at the point where you are developing this fantasy with your partner then you are not ready to get into swinging. The very fact that you are doing research about this demonstrates that you are a caring partner, so we are sure you are capable of getting there with your S.O.!
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