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Originally posted by LIZA:
well a couple might be better if you are looking for soft-swinging. Just ask her if she is interested. It takes about 6 seconds to get the words out!!
If she says "NO WAY" then you need to drop it , nothing worse than pushing it! |
I beleive the gentleman is looking for a bit more of a creative approach. First of all just because someone says "no way" doesn't mean the door is closed. In fact the first response I got was "no way".
Of course the first time she asked me about getting a dog my response was "no way". We have a dog now though.
There is a big difference between being pushy and discussing the options of any particular subject.
Especially a subject that involves intimate relationships with other people. I think your answer was a bit hasty and narrow minded Liza.
So many people think that a females main purpose in life is to be independant and never consider anything but what they want. THeir hubby may have wants that involve sexual fantasy fulfullment also.
My suggestion would be to bring up the subject of the fact that you have been reading a message board that involves open couples that discuss various aspects of unusual sexual activity that involves couples. Expain that you found it interesting and ask her if she would like to explore it with you.
If you just come out in six seconds and say hey babe i wanna have sex with other people you may find yourself looking for a new mate.
Directness can be a very good thing but not always appropriate. John