NBF
Well - while I am humbled by the obvious concern that others had for your situation, I have to say that I (we) still stand by our first post.
I just sort of assumed that if you were doing this, you were smart enough to make sure that your kids came first. I guess I always err in that direction. I'd hack "l'il spoomonkey" off before I let his appetites hurt my kids
At the risk of being humbled *again* - I will say that there is definitely a double standard in the lifestyle for men and women. A triple standard if you're hot
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I think - and I am just trying to be honest here - if you walked into a swing club, as an attractive, nearly divorced woman - and screamed "my hubby's at home and I'm here to play!" You'd get a lot more takers than if a guy in a similar situation did the same thing. Do I think it is right that this would happen? Not really... But if anyone tells you that rules are black and white, hard and fast, not bendable or breakable and wouldn't be renegotiated - I'd say they just aren't telling you the truth.
If we were talking, and you said, "my marriage is in shambles", we'd probably say, "poor thing."
If a single guy said that, we'd wonder if he was just throwing a line and tell him to stop being a dick.
Bisexual females are a premium... That is just a fact... Some people honestly wouldn't play with you. Some people really wouldn't care... But I think you did hit the nail on the head - lots of the people on this board would be more concerned about you as a person than as a piece of ass - and that says a hell of a lot for people like "OhioCouple", The Aluras, LYTD and Nightgoddess. And honestly, those would be the kind of people that would be worth playing with anyway...
As for looks... Well - one thing I have noticed is that lots of the people we have met - while gorgeous, to be sure - are even more beautiful as people. That is the interesting thing about "real" swinging... It really is a game of "personality wins". The package is nice, but the contents are better...
Of course - I have a hell of a package...
(must post before Mrs. Spoo dies laughing
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Spoomonkey