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Originally posted by Alura
I hate to say this, NBF, but I think you should sit at home and not cry until he finally does move out and the papers are signed. Any impatience on your part could cause you a myriad of problems with your kids, or lack of them. Spring is less than six weeks away, whether or not the groundhog saw his shadow. Six weeks is a real short time compared to many years of hoping your ex actually shows up with your kids at the appointed time.
If you were in Oklahoma and he in Connecticutt, we might consider playing with you. But if everybody is in Connecticutt, the divorce papers unsigned, and your husband still living in your house, we'd suggest you masturbate until "the mess" is over, for your sake more than ours.......You have a pretty horrible decision to make, but it must be made.
Hang in there until you get this mess behind you, and hang around here. The folks on this board really care and will be glad to be your friends while you're going through this hell.
Good luck and please keep us up-to-date.
Mr. Alura |
<------Ditto, from a woman who was married to a cheater for 20 years.
I filed, and it took him a year to move out, the longest year of my life.
I put a lot of things on hold (including any thought of a social life) focused on my three kids, my career, and my mental health (got myself to a therapist)
I decided I needed someone to help me remain a good mom while recognizing I needed an impartial someone to discuss all the emotional stuff that surfaces during a divorce. I learned a lot about myself, and did a lot of self-evaluating. It was time and money well invested.
I wish you the best and please keep us posted. Life does get better.