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Originally posted by NewBiFem
Should I sit at home and cry about it? I've been "under his thumb" and repressed for almost 13 years...
I would rather celebrate my sexuality. I want to have fun and forget about that mess for a while...
so??? would you play with me, or turn me away??? |
I hate to say this, NBF, but I think you should sit at home and not cry until he finally does move out and the papers are signed. Any impatience on your part could cause you a myriad of problems with your kids, or lack of them. Spring is less than six weeks away, whether or not the groundhog saw his shadow. Six weeks is a real short time compared to many years of hoping your ex actually shows up with your kids at the appointed time.
If you were in Oklahoma and he in Connecticutt, we might consider playing with you. But if everybody is in Connecticutt, the divorce papers unsigned, and your husband still living in your house, we'd suggest you masturbate until "the mess" is over, for your sake more than ours.
I've been going through a similar situation with my brother whose ex is again living with him because she lost her job due to drinking. (She's been known to disappear for several days until she wakes up in a sleezy motel room with no idea how she got there nor who the guy is who is snoring beside her.) Why does my brother put up with her? Because if he makes her angry she disappears for an even longer time with his son. If he hunts her down and wants his son, the police arrest him because he's a man, and looks like a wild, half-breed Indian, which, of course, he is. They immediately assume he's an abuser, which he isn't. Actually she's the abuser, but it's not her fault. She only does it when she's drunk.
You have a pretty horrible decision to make, but it must be made.
Hang in there until you get this mess behind you, and hang around here. The folks on this board really care and will be glad to be your friends while you're going through this hell.
Good luck and please keep us up-to-date.
Mr. Alura