The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Be honest - if you have a bi male, you aren't a straight couple!

wrnakedru · 02-10-2004, 10:53 PM

I do not deem as dishonest the lack of information regarding that which may or may not ever have transpired in the course of play unless as a result of that activity I am to some degree affected. I believe that it is proper and fitting I should receive that information if and when it becomes possible I may be affected.

I do not feel that which is not going to be a part of time spent with a person, or a couple, to be any of my business unless it is of a nature that puts my well-being in jeopardy.

That said, I offer the following additional opinion.

My husband and I have profiles on several sites, and we normally utilize some variation of a tag line that reads: "Happily MWC ISO same for mutual pleasures." It is our wish that a responding couple has read that profile and is within the requested definition we seek. If they are NOT married, we would certainly seek those who are in a long term, commited, exclusive relationship of a stable nature.

We have reasons for our preference. Among those reasons is a belief our chances for a "good match" are increased if all are bringing the same thing to the table, so to speak. That all are putting the same thing at risk, and therefore are mindful of the other's relationship as well. That all are operating from the same base or foundation, and therefore the same level of commitment to their own relationship will guide their behavior.

The misrepresentation of their status is something we would consider dishonest, or to use your words, a lie.

We would be extremely offended by their erroneous representation as it is the basic definition of their relationship.
It is, for us, a statement of who THEY ARE in the most crucial sense.

We do NOT in any way consider that on an equal level with a "curiosity" that they might have, or an activity they may have no objection to, indeed may not have participated in or have any intention of participating in. Those are details of activity and can be discussed as we get to know each other, and learn more regarding one another.

The basic definition of WHO they are is not a matter for interpretation, and should never be spoken lightly - as if it has little or no meaning.

It is instead one of the basic cornerstones of the interplay both may seek. To pretend otherwise is a prevarication of the highest order. It places the liar on the same level as a philandering spouse.

02-10-2004, 10:53 PM	#15 (permalink)
wrnakedru Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 1,989 Location: Bliss Status: Female	To clarify ... I do not deem as dishonest the lack of information regarding that which may or may not ever have transpired in the course of play unless as a result of that activity I am to some degree affected. I believe that it is proper and fitting I should receive that information if and when it becomes possible I may be affected. I do not feel that which is not going to be a part of time spent with a person, or a couple, to be any of my business unless it is of a nature that puts my well-being in jeopardy. That said, I offer the following additional opinion. My husband and I have profiles on several sites, and we normally utilize some variation of a tag line that reads: "Happily MWC ISO same for mutual pleasures." It is our wish that a responding couple has read that profile and is within the requested definition we seek. If they are NOT married, we would certainly seek those who are in a long term, commited, exclusive relationship of a stable nature. We have reasons for our preference. Among those reasons is a belief our chances for a "good match" are increased if all are bringing the same thing to the table, so to speak. That all are putting the same thing at risk, and therefore are mindful of the other's relationship as well. That all are operating from the same base or foundation, and therefore the same level of commitment to their own relationship will guide their behavior. The misrepresentation of their status is something we would consider dishonest, or to use your words, a lie. We would be extremely offended by their erroneous representation as it is the basic definition of their relationship. It is, for us, a statement of who THEY ARE in the most crucial sense. We do NOT in any way consider that on an equal level with a "curiosity" that they might have, or an activity they may have no objection to, indeed may not have participated in or have any intention of participating in. Those are details of activity and can be discussed as we get to know each other, and learn more regarding one another. The basic definition of WHO they are is not a matter for interpretation, and should never be spoken lightly - as if it has little or no meaning. It is instead one of the basic cornerstones of the interplay both may seek. To pretend otherwise is a prevarication of the highest order. It places the liar on the same level as a philandering spouse.