The way I gather this, you know the couple personally and you know them as a straight couple but you ran into an ad where he says he's bi. This is a pretty common occurance just due to how most people tend to still be anti-bisexuality amongst guys. You'd think in a lifestyle as open as swinging that people would be a little more open-minded in regards to what others choose to do sexually. Unfortunately that isn't the case, which leaves many people often feeling like they still can't be completely open about their interests.
I tend along the lines of what Mrs.O said regarding how often people make assumptions based on your ad. Could be that while he is open to bisexuality he knows that those around him would not accept him as such and might not play with them because of the fact. You said yourself that bisexuality among males in swinging doesn't tend to be accepted. So it would make sense that that would not be something that would open to everyone. However, he may be either bi-curious or bisexual and wish to explore that side as well and would prefer to do so outside of the club scene amongst those who will accept him as such.
So it comes down to, are they a couple you play with and you feel they are lying to you personally? Have you asked them what the deal is? Why not? Just talk to them and say "hey ya know we were looking at these ads sites and found a few ads where the pics look like you and the guy was looking for bi males, so what's the deal."
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