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Originally posted by DeesireCpl
...We know of a couple who recently married and claim they are in the lifestyle as a straight couple. However this couple have placed ads and attemped to meet with bisexual males while trying to hide the fact but most people have seen their pictures have realized that it is indeed the same so called straight couple in the bisexual male ad and want to know why they are hiding an important fact like male bisexuality.
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I've several thoughts on this. First and foremost that comes to mind is the stigma attached to male bi-sexuality. Because someone has an interest in bi-sexual activity does not mean that they are interested in that with everyone that they meet. That goes for both male and females. (As a bi-female, I can say that with full authority.) For a while we had our ads as myself (Mrs. O) listed as a bi-female. A choice that I fully regret as there then became an 'expectation' to convert others or play bi whether either of us were interested or not. Eventually we removed it from our ads as it began to become more of a headache than it was worth.
Speaking only for ourselves, we wrote to those that we thought might be compatible in different areas than we had experienced before and/or had an interest in. Were we lying? No, not our opinion. For myself, I can be listed as straight and really mean it as it takes a special someone in order for me to be interested in participating in bi-sexual activity. Should I need to tell all the straight women that "Hey, I've an interest in bi-sexuality and I've played with women before"? This expectation would not be there for a woman, yet it would for a male. A double standard in my opinion.
IMO, if you come across an ad that doesn't meet your criteria for whatever reasons, move on. No need to disect it, just move on.