Thanks Spoomonkey for clarifying something important! If a person is out to find a relationship within swinging and in doing so, it causes the end of their marriage then that's not a good thing. If they choose to swing because they are simply deprived of sex, but are still very much in love with their partner, then I have no problem with it. There is no threat of me leaving my husband for another because we are very much in love and have a better than great relationship. The person depriving their spouse of sex is in no danger of him or her leaving them for me or my husband... it just won't happen. They are simply getting a good romp and a safe one. You have to consider that the alternative to pay for a call girl that is probably unclean and diseased is much more dangerous than this way. I just look at things all the way around and if it's not hurting anyone then I go for it. The spouse is the one who chose to deprive and should know that if they do something like this their partner will find satisfaction elsewhere. It's just a matter of the better decision of who, and where and when that makes the difference here. I hope that makes it a lil more clear
Hugs, kisses & licks!
Shaheena