We've found ourselves with three groups of friends as well. The non-swingers (who we jokingly refer to as "the civilians") are folks that we've known for years and who, while they are dear dear friends, are folks that you can't hardly drink around, much less do anything else. Group #2 we call the "wannabes." These are also wonderful people and great friends and you can certainly party more with them than the civilians. But these are the folks who may get in the hot tub with you and joke/flirt around but at the same time would absolutely and totally DIE if anything further than that happened. They may be thinking about it in the back of their minds but you just know that they'd never ever get up the gumption to actually do anything. The last group is of course the swingers. Who do we spend more time with? Probably the wannabes, then the civilians, then the swingers. We've found that we can relax more and have a better time when everyone knows that the party is only going to go so far. Not so much pressure to "hook up" for lack of a better term. We love them all though - each and every single one.
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