We were introduced to swinging by soft swinging with friends. However when we (Mr & I) decided we were ready to go to the next stage we discussed it with our friends and it put a wedge in our relationship. In one case the female of the couple was only willing when entoxicated and would voice regrets the following day and the other couple the male wanted to but was reluctant because he would then have to allow his wife to play also and he feared it.
Subsequently we have distanced ourselves from them somewhat and have found other avenues to swing. When we do see them we don't discuss swinging anymore and stay very guarded if they become intoxicated and extra friendly. We don't want them to do something they may regret and drag us in the middle.
So far our swinging friends and non have never met but we are concerned that this could happen and how we would handle the situation.
Most of our non swinging friends are generally younger than us and have young children (we have none) so most of our get togethers are family type functions, at least till 10:00 pm.
Our swinging friends tend to be closer to our age and more confident and open about themselves and their relationships.
We are finding ourselves spending more time with our swinger friends than non as time passes.
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