[TNT]

Ok, we got to talking the other night after attending a new club and I wanted to bring this question to the board as well as all the club owners we have here.

As we sat at a new club the other night, we got to looking around and noticed several different couples that were sitting at tables all alone. No one seemed to be paying them much attention as the regulars were in their groups and having a blast.

Now for us, being in the lifestyle a number of years and attending different clubs in our travels, we have gotten extremely good at introducing ourselves and meeting new people and never feel like we have to wait for someone to come up and talk to us, we have no problem making the initial contact. But, for those that are totally new to the lifestyle and swinger clubs I can see where this would be a problem. Ted and I did get up and introduce ourselves to these couples and they all seemed extremely grateful for the introduction and for someone to sit with them for a few minutes and answer questions they had. Now I do believe that the new people should also get up and introduce themselves but, as most who are new to the Lifestyle are extremely shy and unsure, this is extremely hard for them to do.

It would seem to us that it would be to the advantage of the regulars at a club as well as the owners and the club itself, to take the time to welcome new people. I’m not saying they have to spend all night with them, but a “Hello, how are you tonight?” goes a long ways. Taking a few minutes away from your regular group to check on them throughout the night or introducing them to others, doesn’t hurt either. The owners are usually extremely busy making sure everything is being taken care of with the actual running of the club, i.e. checking people in, making sure there is plenty of toilet tissue in the restrooms, making sure there is plenty of drinks at the bar and so on, but a regular at the club does not have these responsibilities to take care.

So the questions are:

As regulars at a club, do you feel you have a responsibility to welcome new members and check on them throughout the night, or do you feel this is totally the owners job?

As club owners, do you feel your regular members should share in this responsibility or is it totally your responsibility to welcome new members?

Teresa