 Good going, T.H.!
It has been a good many years ago, but I still firmly believe that counseling is one of the best gifts I was ever smart enough to give myself.
The phrase Sadie used about connecting with yourself was the crux of the matter for me. I had become so responsive to what everyone/anyone else expected of me, I had really lost myself in the process.
I'm sure to others there appeared to be no major change that occurred in my life as a result of the counseling. But internally, the transformation was immense. I took responsibility for myself and made my decisions for myself, based on what worked for me.
You are fortunate indeed that your husband is supportive and willing to attend some sessions with you. Mine was not, but it did not stop me from doing what I needed to do for myself. Perhaps his problem was he feared if I began listening to myself, I might see him more clearly as well.
It took another 6 years after that, but I was able to see when the time came that I no longer wanted him in my life. The end of a marriage is a sad thing, especially one of long duration. I have never regretted making that decision, as I would not have the life I have today if I had not.
As I said, sometimes the results of counseling do not manifest themselves to others. But what it can do for you is the total reason for going. I am glad you have found the "right" person for yourself and wish you all the best. There may be some sessions that leave you feeling a little shaky, but what you are building for yourself is important - so stay with it!
Hugs to you!
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