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Tarnished Halo · 02-01-2004, 08:02 AM

Hello Everyone,

I just wanted those who have read my posts to know that I am now in counseling. Because of our personalities, and the issues that have come up in our marriage in regard to swinging, I finally found someone that is 1. In our area 2. A registered sex therapist and 3. Someone that I can afford. NOT that I am going to reveal here what goes on in our counseling sessions, but will keep you all posted on what's happening. Two very intertesting things that she noted.
In the week that I went for the first time, she said that there were three cases that week that involved swinging, after a nearly 10 year lull. She also found that quite interesting.
And two....after a couple of sessions, she stated that she did not believe that one of my problems was that I have low self esteem. She explained that in addition to other considerations, but primarily due to the fact that I did not have a problem in communicating (that doesn't include HOW I COMMUNICATED) my discomfort and considerations about swinging to and with my husband, she did not feel that my self labeled "self esteem" was correct. I did have some self esteem issues though. I thought that was quite interesting.

I will be attending by myself at first, and then we will bring my husband into counseling to address the couple issues that we have communication, etc.
The support from my friends in seeking counseling has been truly wonderful. They do not see me as "sick", or lacking in any way, not that I had ever seen counseling in that light.
I thought that some might be interested in this.
T.H.

02-01-2004, 08:02 AM	#1 (permalink)
Tarnished Halo Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 75 Location: Ohio Status: Couple/M. Female	counseling/swinging/low self esteem Hello Everyone, I just wanted those who have read my posts to know that I am now in counseling. Because of our personalities, and the issues that have come up in our marriage in regard to swinging, I finally found someone that is 1. In our area 2. A registered sex therapist and 3. Someone that I can afford. NOT that I am going to reveal here what goes on in our counseling sessions, but will keep you all posted on what's happening. Two very intertesting things that she noted. In the week that I went for the first time, she said that there were three cases that week that involved swinging, after a nearly 10 year lull. She also found that quite interesting. And two....after a couple of sessions, she stated that she did not believe that one of my problems was that I have low self esteem. She explained that in addition to other considerations, but primarily due to the fact that I did not have a problem in communicating (that doesn't include HOW I COMMUNICATED) my discomfort and considerations about swinging to and with my husband, she did not feel that my self labeled "self esteem" was correct. I did have some self esteem issues though. I thought that was quite interesting. I will be attending by myself at first, and then we will bring my husband into counseling to address the couple issues that we have communication, etc. The support from my friends in seeking counseling has been truly wonderful. They do not see me as "sick", or lacking in any way, not that I had ever seen counseling in that light. I thought that some might be interested in this. T.H.