[TasteeKat]

I have to say that I agree with Lori on this one. You really need to take a step back and evaluate your relationship. If their is that much jealousy and guilt there something is not right. Hubby and I spoke about the lifestyle for about 6 years before we ever entered into it. Our relationship means more to us than having other playmates. And we both came to agreements on everything that we could thing of. Little things may come up, but it is nothing to deal with. To me the lifestyle that we all live is not to bring pain, but to bring more pleasure (physical/visual) that is already in your relationship. I would get out immediately if I thought it was going to bring dispair in my relationship. And for us, we jumped straight in the deep end (as you called it) but we had already covered the issues. So the issues that you deal with, are not there for us. I have a few friends that have talked about the lifestyle, and I have talked them out of it. Because, to me (only my observation) is that their relationship is not strong enough to bring people into their relationship. If the two of you really love each other, PLEASE.... take that step back and get your relationship right first, to avoid these issues. Or if they do come up they will be so small that you will be able to handle them. I think we all would hate to see anyone split over the lifestyle .
We wish you two all the best.

[ 08-15-2002, 09:54 AM: Message edited by: TasteeKat ]