biblond,
Erection difficulties have been a problem for me sometimes when swinging. Disfunction never has been a problem when I am with my wife, so I am sure it isn't a medical condition.
I just get nervous about myself, or the situation. Very rarely is it ever the woman herself. Sometimes it is so bad even my wife can't induce an erection for me.
What works best for me is good comunication with my new partner. The more comfortable I am with her (and her other) the easier it is for me to perform. Compliment your new friend, tell him he looks nice, or smells nice, anything positive. Let him know what he is doing for you is fun and that it is okay to enjoy you. Sometimes men just need permission from you to have a good time.
After three poor performances in a row, on my part, with our favorite couple, she whispered to me "just have fun with me". God bless her. Those words did something for me and I haven't had an erection problem with her since.
Your new partner has buttons, you just have to find them.
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