In my opinion the shy member problem is THE most difficult drawback for men to overcome in the lifestyle, because there seems to be so little that can be done to avoid it. Even Viagra doesn't always help because it requires the mental aspect for it to work. Once up, the Viagra clearly improves performance, but it still needs the "kick start." Ironically, somtimes the harder you try, the softer it gets.
I have found that the odds of a successful encounter has more to do with the woman's attitude, than, for example, her looks. When she makes it clear that she wants me, and responds to my kiss, touch, etc., good things usually happen. <img border="0" alt="[Fun]" title="" src="graemlins/fun.gif" /> On the other hand, when her body language implies that she is just going through the motions (e.g., only to please her husband), or worse, has the unspoken attitude of "OK stud, make me cum," disaster often follows.
Some guys seem to be able to block this all out and just get to work. Are there any insights on how these men bypass the mental obstacles that seem to plague some? Any techniques that can be practiced? There must be ways to improve the odds of success and minimize the embarrassment.