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Originally posted by twoloves
For those that have been swinging separate in the past or still are, how's it going? Any rules that you adhere to? Why did you stop? Is it working?
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Early in our marriage, before we actually played with another couple, we decided to give "an open marriage" a try. Mrs. Alura came up with the first action. She met a "hunky" contractor who was doing repairs of the apartment complex she worked at. We talked about it and I said, "Sure, go for it."
It took two dates to get into his pants, but she did. Mr. Alura had no jealousy problems but that may have been eased by the "dude's" underwhelming style in bed. Mrs. Alura decided she didn't care to see the guy again so we tabled the "playing separately" idea for awhile.
The next time the subject came up was when Mr. Alura was dancing at a class reunion with his high school sweetheart to "Teen Angel." She snuggled up cheek-to-cheek and whispered, "I'd like to fuck your brains out."
"Hey!" he replied. "We can do that! I'm sure it'll be okay with Mrs. Alura."
Mrs. Alura prepared a "hotel room care package" which included a scented jar candle, massage oil, and a few other goodies. Neither of us can remember the whole inventory.
The question hasn't come up since then. We're sure, if it ever does, we'll handle it as before, a case at a time. The concept of playing separately isn't as important to us as the "team chase." Maybe someday we'll succeed in seducing Mrs. Alura's high school sweetheart.
Alura