</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by CanadianCouple:
[/qb]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">At the risk of drawing considerable wrath from my female friends in here, men in my opinion are under much more pressure to "perform" in group situations than are women, for obvious physical reasons.[/QB][/QUOTE]
Dan,
You are not going draw any wrath from this female. The advice you have given is very accurate and I'd be willing to go as far to say you have it to a tee. My husband has also suffered a few times from lack of being able to gain and maintain an erection when with new couples. In the beginning he was very embarassed about it and we were like sccple, wondering if we had any business entertaing this lifestyle at all. He rarely has a problem with me.
sccple,
I am going to hold to my theory that getting to know your selected partners make a major difference in male performance. (that and aclohol consumption which tends be the way that some people relax and get comfortable). What Dan said holds true for us, getting in a RELAXED atmosphere does make a big difference.
Continue to be supportive and let him know this is not abnormal, chances are that the couple you are with have experienced the same problem and will be understanding about it.
As Dan said, men have little control over their erections, where as with us women we can keep a bottle of Astroglide by our sides and go all night.
Lori
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