The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Found out female of couple we swing with is only doing it for him

OhioCouple · 07-22-2002, 08:21 PM

Alura,

Thank you for your earnest reply. Naturally, with us being new, we do not know what is "normal". It it good to know that we are not the only people to have experienced this/ and or are experiencing this. As we stated before, we are distancing ourselves from this couple after much discussion. My husband though is having a harder time with it than I am. He feels that we should be civil (not that I am being uncivil mind you)....(sorta like we "owe" them one) kinda thingie, as they were kind enough to "hold our hands" thru the initial phases of getting introduced to the lifestyle.

Although he agrees with the fact that we need to separate ourselves from them, he has developed an outside of the lifestyle relationship with the male half. They both have a love for building and for racing cars, which tends to complicate matters somewhat. Thankfully they live about 3 1/2 hours away so that does help some.

We are both in agreement to distance the realtionship, but he would like to do it gradually, as opposed to "my" saying "NO MORE".

The whole thing is a headache...Where is the Bayer????

Lori

07-22-2002, 08:21 PM	#12 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	Alura, Thank you for your earnest reply. Naturally, with us being new, we do not know what is "normal". It it good to know that we are not the only people to have experienced this/ and or are experiencing this. As we stated before, we are distancing ourselves from this couple after much discussion. My husband though is having a harder time with it than I am. He feels that we should be civil (not that I am being uncivil mind you)....(sorta like we "owe" them one) kinda thingie, as they were kind enough to "hold our hands" thru the initial phases of getting introduced to the lifestyle. Although he agrees with the fact that we need to separate ourselves from them, he has developed an outside of the lifestyle relationship with the male half. They both have a love for building and for racing cars, which tends to complicate matters somewhat. Thankfully they live about 3 1/2 hours away so that does help some. We are both in agreement to distance the realtionship, but he would like to do it gradually, as opposed to "my" saying "NO MORE". The whole thing is a headache...Where is the Bayer???? Lori
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