Wow, Lori!
Your story is all too familiar. A few years ago we were playing with a couple whom we thought had one of the most stable marriages we'd ever known. The four of us had been playing for about three years and had even decided to find a third couple to add to the mix.
Suddenly, without warning to us or her husband of 30 years, a week or so after our last play session, she announced to her husband that she was in love with another man, moved out of their semi-palatial home into an apartment with the other guy and filed for divorce. "The other guy" did the same, splitting up two long-established families in the process.
We were so shocked we told the new couple we were getting to know that we were unsure if we could go on swinging. Like you, we thought, "If it can happen to them, could it happen to us?"
Time has eased the fear in our case and we do hope to play again, but we can certainly understand what y'all are experiencing. We agree with your decision to distance yourselves from that couple. We would, however, suggest that you level with them. Tell them exactly how y'all feel about the situation. If they don't understand, y'all will have lost nothing.
Alura
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