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OhioCouple · 07-22-2002, 12:42 PM

Quin,

You are, with the advice given, as Gene would say..."On the same page that we are". This post gave us some very good advice and led us to talk more about what "WE" wanted and what our expectations are in this lifesytle.

We have chosen to distance ourselves from this couple, although they are continually contacting us and have asked if we are "avoiding" them. "They", and I am not sure if it is him/her or both...want to set up a get together in late August. We are both in agreement that it is not "healthy" for either of us to be involved in their very obvious personal problems.

We came into this lifesytle with our eyes wide open and ready to learn and experience, with a mutual agreement that if either of us did not care to continue or had a problem, that we would respect each others wishes and discontinue altogether if one of us did not want to.

Our marriage is much more important to us than putting ourselves in situations that could cause future problems or are undesirable.

Remeber All, Don't forget to vote for Julie!

Lori

07-22-2002, 12:42 PM	#10 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	Quin, You are, with the advice given, as Gene would say..."On the same page that we are". This post gave us some very good advice and led us to talk more about what "WE" wanted and what our expectations are in this lifesytle. We have chosen to distance ourselves from this couple, although they are continually contacting us and have asked if we are "avoiding" them. "They", and I am not sure if it is him/her or both...want to set up a get together in late August. We are both in agreement that it is not "healthy" for either of us to be involved in their very obvious personal problems. We came into this lifesytle with our eyes wide open and ready to learn and experience, with a mutual agreement that if either of us did not care to continue or had a problem, that we would respect each others wishes and discontinue altogether if one of us did not want to. Our marriage is much more important to us than putting ourselves in situations that could cause future problems or are undesirable. Remeber All, Don't forget to vote for Julie! Lori
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