Well, I had posted something similar to this right after New Year's Eve, where Lora had the similar situation, people that we knew where he couldn't maintain an erection and she was feeling, just as BiBlonde mentioned, cheated.
Vjk and Shoreguy mentioned some things, and these are all very true in different scenarios. You had stated that this happens every time now, but it's getting better. (I guess I am assuming that these are with the same people, correct?)
Have you ever discussed this one on one with the guy(s)? Perhaps just a simple discussion to help ease tensions may be just what the doctor ordered. Is there something particular that maybe he wants to do, or something that you can do, to help the situation sexually? One guy that Lora had played with had problems initially, but when he said he liked to kind of talk dirty but didn't feel comfortable doing it, Lora told him that was fine, and when he did, BOOM! Hard as a rock!
This is common in the lifestyle, I have been there, and I am sure that the vast majority of men have been there. When it happened to me on two consecutive times, it damaged my ego so much that I considered just dropping out altogether. But, viagra was a miracle. Now, I just take a small amount prior to and there's never a problem. I believe now that it's more or a symbol of confidence rather than the actual "need" for the drug.
Please do not beat yourself up over this, it is definitely not you. I would just consider going about things a little different and see what may come out of it--literally!!! LOL
Tim
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